KEEP YOUR VIGINITY AND GAIN SELF ESTEEM BY OLUWASEYE IGE
You never know the value of what you have until you lose it,so an old Yoruba proverb says.THE same goes for the current trend of giving away one's purity amonst the youth. While the Nigerian society focuses more on the woman and demands of her a higher standard or morality,there is nothing wrong in a man toeing the same line and keeping himself for marriage.
|SOUTH AFRICAN CULTURE HAS UPDATED THEIR TRADITIONAL RITES TO PROMOTE VIRGINITY AND THESE BLACK GIRLS ARE CELEBRATING THEIR VIRGINITY!|
Nowadays a young man who has not ditched his virginity as a rite of passage before 16 is queer. Those who are still virgins after 18 often cannot boldly declare their status before their friends for fear of ridicule. They see themselves as outcasts and do not think that they are better off than their reckless peers who may be one day faced with a teenage pregnancy.
The dangers of a reckless life are endless. So many have contracted veneral diseases,aids,hiv, and others have had to pay for abortions that ended badly. But not one would tell you the nightmares they have been living. Instead you are regaled with tales of what you are missing!
The same situation is applicable to girls. You are not a big girl until you have given yourself away to some teen age boyfriend,possibly an undeserving young man who you might not have granted an audience were you older and wiser. Unfortunately so many young girls are falling for this ruse and they believe the only road to popularity is rolling with the guys.
The surest thing you can get by being careless with your body is disrespect from the very boys whom you gave yourself to! Preserving one's virginity takes a lot of discipline,self control and fortitude ,virtues that would be demanded of you when you are married.
Contrary to what your friends say,being a virgin is perfectly normal. You will not fall sick because you did not have sex before 21. You will not even get sick if you do not have sex before 35 !
Self-esteem is a thing of the mind. If you feel good about yourself no one can put you down.
Pregnant teens,troubled teens and reckless teens are those that become depressed adults. These depressed adults eventually become a nuisance to society.
Do not join you friends to experiment with sex. It is like walking on red hot coal. Your legs will get burnt. You are saved the trouble of teenage pregnancy and the dangers of abortion So many have lost their wombs and would remain childless for life. RETAIN YOUR VIRGINITY AND RETAIN YOUR DIGNITY! It is not something you give away in the heat of an infatuation. It is something to be saved for a worthy life partner!